There was never any one great
epiphany or sudden insightful, dawn-breaking revelation.
The final
conclusion, the undeniable truth, came in bits and pieces over decades,
laboriously drawn from thousands of hours of personal observation and literary
ethological research.
The realization that I was part and party in both
perception and deed left me devastated at both extremes emotionally.
On
one hand, I felt the overwhelming remorse and guilt when someone discovers they
have been unwittingly inflicting mental, emotional and physical pain on a
helpless, innocent, sentient being they love very much. That my actions were
completely unintentional due to my ignorance and complete lack of understanding
did nothing to alleviate that remorse and guilt.
That I had gained the
full approval of both my peers and the supposed experts in the horse world left
me regarding our present day management and 'training practices' with a
contemptuous repulsiveness not unlike what an ex-smoker cancer patient might
feel standing in the middle of a hazy cigar lounge.
At the other
extreme, it rewarded me (and anyone else who shares a degree of love, caring and
deep sense of personal responsibility for their horse) with an ability to
achieve a level of oneness and intimacy with the Horse that no 'training format'
could ever possibly attain.
You have already invested a great deal of
personal time, effort and money to do the very best you can for your horse. It
would be a natural reaction to feel some degree of disbelief, absurdity,
resentment, defensiveness and 'righteous indignation' when accused of not only
making your horse's life as chaotically difficult as possible, but also being
the cause of every 'bad horse/behavioral problem' ever known.
Of course
we are not accusing anyone of anything. We each must answer to a different
morality and perception of the Horse (and the human/equine relationship) as our
heart and knowledge dictate.
But we implore you to reach above and beyond
the norm of present day 'training' perceptions to learn the real reason WHY we
still have so many behavioral horse problems after 6,000 years of 'practice.'
Especially so with an animal that has remained virtually unchanged
instinctually, mentally and emotionally for all that time.
We would
caution you to be very concerned about the SOURCE of your learning. For if you
look only in one place, only in one area of horsemanship and the human/equine
relationship, your knowledge and perception will be limited to that area
alone.
And we beg you to first learn of horses in their natural
surroundings and THEIR regard and needs for home and family from equine
ethologists who have no 'ulterior motives' or marketing schemes, and who only
offer pure, empirical knowledge and truth. Then, and only then, will you be able
to make an objective evaluation of what may be right or wrong for both your
horse, and yourself as well. We have no doubt that if you do, you will come to
the same conclusion we did.
We promise you will never ever regret
it.
And neither will your horse.
(signed) The Friendship Training Family